I love my natural hair, I do, I love the tight curls, the twists, the way it rolls up when I rub it with a towel, the way it feels soft and bouncy, I love how it gives me power to say no to people who only have a narrow definition of beauty. I also understand the women who chose to relax or weave their hair, but while you relax or weave please please love the hair underneath, love you even if you chose not to show your kinks and curls.
The most common cause of hair loss in black women is traction alopecia and permanent follicle damage brought on by repeated chemical burns, all in the name of making kinky hair less kinky and therefore more socially acceptable.
The images below are common. As the hair loss progresses more and more drastic measures are employed to hide the damage. Longer, heavier, weaves are applied which put additional stress on the already exhausted hair follicles, tighter weaves to get the hair to hold because there may not be enough real hair left to provide a solid foundation, the use of weave glue on the scalp instead of only on the hair because the hair is too weak to support the heavy weft. The hair may also be relaxed with harsh chemicals more often further weakening the hair as the quest to never have a nappy kink or curl show is pursued.
This model is 18 years old.
I’ll do me, you do you but if doing you involves weaves and relaxers please make sure you are not one of the people who ends up bald and permanently stuck under a wig by the time you are 40.